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The possibility of another way

Our anxiety is the barrier to compassionate care.  Our anxiety comes from our lack of experience, skills, or knowledge.  We are not taught how to respond in the ways that are needed.  In the same way we do not teach people how to parent (the most important job in our lifetime), we assume that we will all know how to approach dying and grieving.  It is not part of our DNA; these are skills that must be taught, practiced, sanctioned, and reinforced.  We must be given vocabulary with which to put the experiences into context, make meaning, and express ourselves.  We must have role models that demonstrate what it means to be compassionate, caring, and empathetic.  All of this will serve as a foundation that dramatically and directly affects our underlying beliefs about the end of life. Continue reading