New Year’s Resolution for the Bereaved

THIS YEAR I VOW TO…

ALLOW AND HONOR ALL MY FEELINGS

  • Not to judge myself or my feelings
  • Not to utter or think any rules or “shoulds”

LISTEN TO MY HEART

  • To enter that still, sure place within where peace survives
  • To trust my inner voice

TREAT MYSELF LIKE A PRECIOUS CHILD

  • To be gentle and compassionate toward myself
  • To be kind and forgiving toward myself
  • To reassure myself I am doing the best I can in this moment

GIVE MYSELF WHATEVER TIME I NEED TO GRIEVE,

  • whenever I need it

ALLOW MYSELF THE RELIEF FROM ISOLATION, COMPARISONS, AND JUDGMENT

  • Find support from someone who will be with me just as I am

TRUST MY BODY TO KNOW HOW TO GRIEVE, AND

  • then let it

ALLOW LOVE TO FLOW TO ME FROM MY COMMUNITY

  • from family who may not have understood me
  • from unexpected people who surround me
  • from a friend to sit with me, hold me, and comfort my mind/body/and soul

TO FIND MIRACLES IN THE MOST ORDINARY OF THINGS AND EVENTS EACH DAY

  • a sunrise, a hummingbird, the wet nose of a dog, a child pumping on a swing
  • I will see and even feel wonder and beauty in the world without the guilt or despair that I am enjoying it without my loved one

TO TAKE ONE DEEP BREATH AFTER ANOTHER, AND

  • trust my resilience and ability to be with all my feelings

TO HOLD ON TO THE LOVE, AND

  • not let death end my relationship with my loved one

“How We Die Matters: Transforming our Fear of Death”

Join me in Ft. Collins, CO on Tuesday, Oct. 21 7:00-8:30 p.m. for an evening discussion of how we can transform our fear of death into an opportunity to be of service. St. Luke’s Spiritual Leadership Forum presents “Metanoia: A fundamental change of heart; embracing thoughts beyond current limitations”.

St. Luke’s Episcopal Church
2000 Stover St.
Fort Collins, CO

Admission is free
Book signing to follow presentation

“Confronting Mortality: Faith & Meaning Across Cultures”

The New York Academy of Science and the Nour Foundation sponsored a forum Feb. 5 2014.

Despite advances in technology and medicine, death itself remains an immutable certainty. Indeed, the acceptance and understanding of our mortality is one of the enduring metaphysical challenges that have confronted human beings from the beginning of time.

How have we sought to cope with the inevitability of our mortality? How do various cultural and social representations of mortality shape and influence the way in which we understand and approach death? To what extent do personal beliefs and convictions about the meaning of life or the notion of an afterlife impact how we perceive and experience the process of death and dying? Psychologist Lani Leary, historian of religions Jeffrey J. Kripal, and sociologist Allan Kellehear come together to share a multicultural perspective on death, dying, and what lies beyond.

– See more at: http://www.nourfoundation.com/events/rethinking-mortality/confronting-mortality-faith-and-meaning-across-cultures#sthash.xxZNq6an.dpuf