THIS YEAR I VOW TO…

ALLOW AND HONOR ALL MY FEELINGS

• Not to judge myself or my feelings
• Not to utter or think any rules or “shoulds”

LISTEN TO MY HEART

• To enter that still, sure place within where peace survives
• To trust my inner voice

TREAT MYSELF LIKE A PRECIOUS CHILD

• To be gentle and compassionate toward myself
• To be kind and forgiving toward myself
• To reassure myself I am doing the best I can in this moment

GIVE MYSELF WHATEVER TIME I NEED TO GRIEVE,

• whenever I need it

ALLOW MYSELF THE RELIEF FROM ISOLATION, COMPARISONS, AND JUDGMENT

• Find support from someone who will be with me just as I am

TRUST MY BODY TO KNOW HOW TO GRIEVE, AND

• then let it

ALLOW LOVE TO FLOW TO ME FROM MY COMMUNITY

• from family who may not have understood me
• from unexpected people who surround me
• from a friend to sit with me, hold me, and comfort my mind/body/and soul

TO FIND MIRACLES IN THE MOST ORDINARY OF THINGS AND EVENTS EACH DAY

• a sunrise, a hummingbird, the wet nose of a dog, a child pumping on a swing
• I will see and even feel wonder and beauty in the world without the guilt or despair that I am enjoying it without my loved one

TO TAKE ONE DEEP BREATH AFTER ANOTHER, AND

• trust my resilience and ability to be with all my feelings

TO HOLD ON TO THE LOVE, AND

• not let death end my relationship with my loved one